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A system for your success getting jobs in the entertainment industry

A System for Your Success Getting Jobs in the Entertainment Industry
By Jessica Sitomer



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networking obstacles

Networking Obstacles? You're not alone...
By Jessica Sitomer



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Hiring obstacles

WHY PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW YOU, WON'T HIRE YOU
By Jessica Sitomer



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Terms of Endearment

TERMS OF ENDEARMENT: Living Your Career Dreams Now!
By Jessica Sitomer

Mother and daughter, Aurora and Emma, don't see eye to eye very often. Because the movie covers a time span of several years, we see how they constantly disagree over each other's choices. The tumultuous relationship comes to an abrupt halt, when Emma is diagnosed with cancer. We see how quickly Aurora makes herself available and loving in order to do the very best for her daughter.

I can only describe it as fierce love- that feeling that overcomes you when you want to protect someone you love, when you want to take away the pain, and make everything better. And then come the regrets; the "could've done and the should've done." Why? Why does it take something earth shattering to wake us up?

You have a passion; a career path that you love, that you're so lucky to know in your heart that it's what you're meant to do. And yet, over and over, you sabotage that career path because of irrational fears. A person gives you a business card and tells you to follow up. You lose the card or stick it in a drawer. Maybe you give some thought to the appropriate time for follow up and by the time you're done negotiating with yourself, you feel the opportunity has passed.

How many more times are you going to let these irrational fears get in the way of having the career you desire? A rejection can't physically hurt you. A "no" will not make or break your career. If you call a person when he or she is busy and get a curt response, your career is not over. You will go on to see another day and another opportunity.
I ask you:

1. What will it take for you to recognize that you must pursue your career each day like it's the day that will change everything?

2. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

3. How would you pursue your career differently if you knew you had only a short finite amount of time to do it?

I know this isn't my typical "upbeat" motivational article, but sometimes it's important to look at the pain attached to missing out on something that could be so wonderful and asking: WHY am I allowing myself to settle for mediocrity? And asking: WHEN am I going to CHOOSE to stop sabotaging myself and pursue my career the way I know I MUST. I ask you to do the And Action! task and make that choice TODAY- because tomorrow may be too late.

And Action!

This may be a tough one, but I request that you challenge yourself.

1. Write non-stop for ten minutes starting with the sentence, "If I were diagnosed with a terminal illness today, what would I have done differently in pursuing my career? I would have "

It's not a fun task, but it can be very revealing. The reason I'm asking you to do this, is so you recognize how precious your gifts and your time are. They are not to be wasted. Share them with the world NOW.

2. Write a short mission statement about why you're committed to fulfilling your career desires now, and why you will be unstoppable.

3. Schedule 3 tasks you've been putting off because of fear.

Don't wait for a tragedy to wake you up to what you're missing. LIVE YOUR DREAMS NOW!


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Entertanment Industry Coach article Terms of Endearment

LOVE ACTUALLY- The Ultimate Romantic Comedy
By Jessica Sitomer

Ah, Love Actually. Love, love, and more love. A synopsis of the gamut of relationships; falling in love, fighting love, the beginning of love, the end of love, love with a language barrier, love with a political barrier, love thwart by friendship, young love, mature love, and love lost.

Sounds like a career doesn't it? Try it. Re-read the previous paragraph and substitute the word career wherever you see the word love.

In certain seminars, I literally compare the job search to dating. Because you have to meet a lot of people before you meet "the one." How about a new perspective on your career? Think of it as the Ultimate Romantic Comedy Perspective. Why not?

Picture this:
GIRL buys a cup of coffee at local Coffee Bean, answers her cell phone and finds out she got an important meeting, expresses her excitement by doing a silly spin, knocking into: GUY, spilling coffee all over his tie. He gets frustrated, storms out to get to his meeting.

CUT TO: GIRL walks into meeting with none other than GUY. She feels awkward and the meeting doesn't go well. She trips on her way out. He shakes his head, but the twinkle in his eye gives away something to come.

CUT TO: GIRL beating herself up in her apartment, drinking wine, singing off-key to Nora Jones.

CUT TO: GIRL at party, networking with her GAL PAL, and a group of executives. She's just about forgotten the trials of the day, and the champagne is building her confidence, when the executives call over the host of the party: GUY. GIRL spits out champagne, all over GUY's new shirt. This time GUY jokes, that clearly she must want to see him topless. He pulls off his shirt, jumps in pool, and a wacky pool scene ensues. GIRL leaves, humiliated.

CUT TO: GIRL listening to 10 messages from desperate agent about meetings, while in her pajamas eating ice cream.

And so on and so forth with a series of just misses between GIRL and GUY as she grows more and more frustrated with her career, and he desperately tries to find her because she has written the script that his studio wants to produce.

After a long conversation with her 180 pound dog, GIRL decides to give up on her career and move home to Louisiana to marry her high school sweetheart. A few just misses between GIRL AND GUY as she makes her way to the airport and then, GUY, with GIRL'S script races through the terminal.

Does it work out? You tell me. Put yourself in GIRL'S shoes. When a meeting doesn't go well, when a phone message goes unreturned, when your expectations are not met, do you slip into a rut, or do you fight for your happy ending?

This was not a series of scenes in a movie about "falling in love," this is a year in the life of an entertainment industry professional, following a dream, hitting pitfalls, having a lot of "just misses," and then having to make a choice. What choice will you make?

And Action!

1. Look back over the "story of your career." If it were a romantic comedy, what would be the inciting incident (the moment you chose to pursue your career)?

2. List 10 of your biggest pitfalls/disappointments/un-met expectations.

3. What would you like your happy ending to be?

4. What do you have to do to fight for it?

Movies and television inspire us. That's why we're in this industry. So why not start LIVING THE LIFE YOU SEE IN THE MOVIES THAT MAKE YOU LAUGH!



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Let's talk about business cards

LET'S TALK ABOUT BUSINESS CARDS
By Jessica Sitomer

Why am I writing this? Because yesterday, I witnessed a director ask a DP for his card after watching a short film he shot (beautifully I might add). The DP didn't have one on him, so the director handed him his card and said to keep in touch. The conversation would have ended there, had I not known the DP and intervened.

I pulled out an index card & pen and handed it to the DP saying, "give him your contact information." The DP wrote down his name, number, and email address. He was about to hand it to the director when I suggested he add to the card: where they met, their mutual friend, the name of the project, and that he is a DP.

What you need to know:

1.  EVERYONE should have one, no matter what classification you are. The reason is because this is how people will have your information to get in touch with you. The basics on it are your: name, classification, phone number, email address, website.

2.  I advise my clients to take notes on people's business cards so they remember who YOU are. Because of that, for those of you who have two sided cards, make sure one side isn't glossy. Glossy cards are too hard to write on with a ball point pen.

3.  Because some people don't have business cards, carry index cards on you so you can take their information. Never count on them to follow up with you.  Keep the ball in your court. Take their name, contact info, what they do, and what you discussed.

Final tip: put your business cards in different places, so you always have them on you or in your car, etc.


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Hocus Pocus

HOCUS POCUS The Career Witches Rear Their Ugly Heads
By, Jessica Sitomer

When sisters Winnie, Sarah, and Mary are brought back through a black candle ceremony, they only have Halloween night to haunt the children of Salem and recapture immortality.

Yes, it's a kid's movie, but who isn't haunted by "witches" and such, in the every day lives of an entertainment industry career?

The three "witches" I hear about most are:

The witch of wanting more work, the witch of wanting better work, and the witch of wanting different work. So, this Halloween, I thought I'd give you some hocus pocus of your own to cast a new spell over your career and rid yourself of these witches once and for all! Read the rest of the article by pressing "read more" below.

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Good Will Hunting

GOOD WILL HUNTING The Unsung Hero is You
By, Jessica Sitomer

The title says it all: This is a movie about Will Hunting. But would Will agree? The lead character in a film is dubbed "the hero", yet, in this story, there is most certainly an unsung hero. Would psychologist, Sean Maguire, consider himself the unsung hero? Probably not. Most unsung heroes never acknowledge themselves. Many don't even know the impact they've had on others' lives.

Take a moment to think about people who've impacted your life and probably don't know it. In an article written about me recently, for my national sorority's magazine, I acknowledged my chapter's advisor and how I still use today, what I learned from her many years ago. She sent me a note that the acknowledgment made her cry and how she was so touched that I still thought of her.

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The line between business and "friedship" on Facebook

The Line Between Business and "FRIENDship" on Facebook
By Jessica Sitomer

Maybe I'm cranky because I've been hit by one too many pillows on Facebook this week, but it's time to have this conversation. Facebook, is an amazing tool for entertainment industry professionals, because it's such an easy way to learn about people you normally wouldn't have access to. You learn through their posts, pictures, and videos. Usually, you learn good things, like: They're proud parents or dog owners, avid sailors or snowboarders, artists, photographers, sports fanatics, TV show fans, excellent cooks, etc.

However, sometimes you learn bad things about them, like that they have too much time on their hands (because they're spending all their time on Mafia Wars or planting farms), they don't understand boundaries (because they are "selling themselves" on your wall without your permission, by posting a link of their reel or tagging you in a video they shot that you had nothing to do with to capitalize on your name), or that they are annoying (because they hit you with pillows, 10 times a day or send you gifts that they want returned).

Social media may be fun for some, but if you are using Facebook as a way to showcase yourself to the world as a well-rounded human being with a life and career, then be very aware of how you're presenting yourself.

Some bonus "no-nos"
1. Don't send out blanket emails to everyone on your list. That's called SPAM, and is not legal.

2. Be aware of how many times you're asking someone to be your fan. If they didn't join your page the first 3 times, they'll probaly unfriend you on the 11th time (at least that's my breaking point, and I'm pretty easy going.)

3. Do not invite EVERYONE on your list to an event if it doesn't apply to them.

4. Don't write confrontational things on people's wall If you disagree with something they wrote, send a private email. You don't want to be recognized as the guy/gal who starts Facebook wall wars.

Keep in mind, some people have over 1000 friends. If even half of their friends sent them a fan page request each day, that's a lot of email to sort through. Yes, many people, including me, have my Facebook messages forwarded to my private email. SO BE CONDSIDERATE OF PEOPLE'S TIME.

All that said, I love Facebook, I love my Facebook Friends, and I love that this marketing tool is free. Use it wisely and you will reap the benefits.


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